How does your relationship change?
From what I’ve seen the children who do sit down and eat politely are those who have been taught how to at daycare/nursery.
Whether it’s teaching your child to sit still and eat or anything else for that matter, the child seems somehow to listen better to others, be it teachers, coaches, instructors than they listen to you. Someone asked me why do you send your kids to football classes, after all how difficult is it to teach your kids how to kick a ball? Well it’s true I could spend ages trying to teach them, but they wouldn’t pay attention to me the same way they pay attention to the coach.
I also think there’s a group mentality amongst the children when they are together. You would have thought that a dozen children who don’t ordinarily sit down and eat nicely at the table, that when you get them together mayhem would ensue. But it’s quite the opposite, they all sit down together nicely, they even have conversations. On occasions it’s been known to happen that I am running late to drop my boy to nursery, when we get there breakfast has started, my boy sits down at the table and nicely waits for his food and eats nicely and quietly – It’s really impressive to see this change in behaviour when they are in an external environment and the other children are all behaving this way too.