I have to admit, I was totally unprepared for just how much difference there is between going from having one child to having two. Leading up to the birth of my second child I did talk to a lot of people with two kids on how to deal with balancing whatever little time I had between two of them.
I used to think that the change in lifestyle between ‘not having any kids to having one’ was significantly bigger than ‘going from one to two children’.
I used to think that having the second would be a minor adjustment – after all we’ve now got the whole house set up in a child friendly manner, something that we did not have before, we’re adjusted in disjointed sleep patterns and having to organise ourself to military precision whenever going anywhere.
Why don’t you just leave work earlier?
Good question, a couple of occasions I have worked though my lunch hour and left an hour early, giving myself an extra hour with them both was great, currently I’m getting around half an hour with them if I can leave work on time, in which they both need to be changed, teeth brushed, convince them it’s bedtime, even though they are excited when I get home, read and feed, it’s a frantic evening schedule, that is when I can get home on time. That leaves no time for writing, having dinner with them (I have dinner, they have a second dinner) just basically talking to them and finding out what they did today.
During the weekends